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The Dating Secret They Don't Tell You: 3 Phases
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The Dating Secret They Don't Tell You: 3 Phases

One listener feels like casual dating doesn't have to be a guessing game...but it doesn't have to be

I spent 3 months on dating apps with 0 matches…

For a while I thought I wasn’t what Black guys desired, but really, it was a deeper key that I was missing: intention…both mine and theirs.

Dating is a combination of time and effort. Some of us have a lot of time to date, but don’t focus our effort in a way that moves us down our journey to happiness. Others have effort, but no time. Some have neither.

The sweet spot is when you AND HE have both

Relationships are born with you and the guy you’re trying to get to know have (1) the time necessary to fulfill the physical and emotional needs of a new dating situation and (2) the desire to put forth the effort to get close.

When you have both but swipe right on someone who doesn’t, what happens can only lead to disappointment and rejection. This episode, hopefully, helps us all identify how much time and effort we have individually and for the guy we have eyes for.


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