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Why Is Dating Black Men So Hard?

Does dating have to be hard, or does queer culture make it needlessly more difficult than it needs to be.

My last relationship ended three times.

The first time was because I was insecure. The second time was because he was impatient. The third time was because I never invested myself back into the relationship after the first two attempts.

It takes a lot to see the dating process through to it’s hopeful end. Self-awareness is probably at the top of the list.

So tonight, I’m asking the DBGM family to pull on our self-awareness. Each of us has to ask ourselves, “are we the drama?”

Is dating actually hard, or do we make it that way?


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Chapters

Dating as a Queer Person (00:00:01)

The Problem with Dating (00:00:58)

Church Announcements: Single Season as a Superpower (00:02:43)

The Top Drought & Sexual Roles (00:10:20)

Masculinity, Femininity, and Nuance (00:15:13)

The Meaning of "Daddy" (00:46:14)

The Need for Better Language (01:13:11)

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