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Decoding “Daddy”: Beyond the Bedroom in Black Gay Culture

What does “daddy” really mean in the Black queer community?

Join JAI The Gentleman of the Dear Black Gay Men Podcast as he breaks down an exclusive, off-air conversation from the “Private Party” episode and dives into the ambiguity of this cultural term.

In this episode, we tackle the big questions:

  • Does “daddy” have a meaning outside of sex in Black gay culture?

  • Does the term lose its meaning when we use it too often?

  • Is it simply a top with a big dick, or does it come with a level of real-life responsibility?

JAI even shares an exclusive update about his new dating entanglement with someone he calls Ryan, who considers JAI his “daddy”. This dynamic sparks a deeper discussion: Can a daddy be femme? Is the term about masculinity, or is it a service role—a protector and provider who shows love through acts of service?

Plus, we get into:

  • The argument that straight culture is co-opting the term “daddy” from queer BDSM and leather culture.

  • What 20 bottoms agree on about what a “daddy” is not.

  • A heated moment on dating app etiquette: Why you need to get to the point, fill out your profile, and stop asking questions that are already answered!

Tune in for a powerful, unfiltered discussion on love, kink, gender roles, and the evolving language of Black gay intimacy.

Listen now to Dear Black Gay Men Podcast and join the conversation!

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